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College students: Do you ever read the theories they teach you in school and think, “WTF!”?

Question by sunshinedays: College students: Do you ever read the theories they teach you in school and reckon, “WTF!”?
I was a psychology major for a while, and I was stunned that I was paying to sit in a classroom and be told about Freud’s theory that men feel “castration anxiety” around women because when they were small they noticed that they don’t have penises and assumed theirs was cut off and became fearful that theirs may be too.
And that girls come to resent their mothers because they blame it on her that they never had a penis.

And now I’m taking a women in film course, and I’ve read articles saying things like women can get pleasure out of imagining that the women in films are lesbians…and theories saying that it’s terrible to watch films where the males are dominant because you identify with them and desire to be like them if you’re man or masochistically delight in watching women dominated if you’re a female.

Um no..how about you’re just watching a tale unfold when you watch a movie?

Drives me nuts!

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Answer by Terry
Yea I agree, Freud was just ridiculous. I reckon he place the psycho in psychology. He also thought that all men wanted their mothers sexually when they were younger.

Edit: I chose to look him up on wikipedia and it turns out he used cocaine too!

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What is the colonized mindset?

Question by Aisha J: What is the colonized mindset?
The colonised mindset: The enemy within the African communities. SendMeYourNews
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The colonised mindset: The enemy within the African communities.

The writer is going to place forward an argument that unless the
slave/colonial mindset is recognised as the active enemy, within the African
communities world-wide, attempts to know the social and economic
problems will be useless. This mindset has been affecting the
individual/family /organisations/community and nations alike. From an early
age, adults have been referring to people as having “being colonial or slave
minded” in a most benign way. It as if having this mindset is like having a
flue. You treat the symptoms and eventually, it should go away, if the
immune system is acute and alert. In reality, it is the most virulent
psychological condition prevalent amongst African communities. The hurt is
too enormous to consider in this essay. It has and is still destroying from
individuals to revolutions to states eg Patrice Lumumba-Congo, Thomas
Sankara-Bukina Faso, Walter Rodney-Guyana, Cabral, Malcolm X and Bantu S
Biko to name a few. When foreign money, the lust for power and the colonial
mindset met-destruction is sure to follow. Mineral rich DRC remains the most
tragic example today. Also Angola before the timely death of Savimbi, ”
Washington’s kept man”. Failure to confront and systematically deal with
this enemy is equivalent to failure to live and or thrive.

HISTORY

The disastrous effects of slavery and colonialism on the physical aspect of
the Africans in the Americas, the Caribbean and on mainland Africa have been
well documented by a host of European and African-American historians
including Basil D Davidson, Walter Rodney and Professor Jeffries. Few
writers have focused on the debilitating effects of the mindset on the
emotions and the psychology as Carter G Woodson( 1875-1950)was probably a
pioneer when he addressed this condition in his book – The Mis-Education of
the Negro. Later, Dr Na’im Akbar painstakingly outlined the psychological
effects in his book- Chains and Images of psychological slavery. Professor
Joy Leary recently attempted to place the psychological trauma concept in the
public domain during a recent lecture tour in London but, few Africans
wanted to even contemplate this concept as an explanation for some of their
behaviour towards each other.
It is of paramount importance to know the disastrous reality of the
sate accurately described by Woodson and take action to treat it.
“When you control a man’s thinking you do not have to worry about his
actions. You do not have to tell him not to stand there or go yonder. He or
she will find his “proper place” and will stay in it. You do not need to
send him to the back door. He will go without being told. In fact, if there
is no back door, he will cut one for his special benefit. His education
makes it necessary”. Woodson showed a lot of foresight in his early
detection of the destructive side of the slave/colonial mindset. It is a
pity that, most Pastors and self-appointed “community” leaders do not
recommend this book to the many families who come through their doors. They
do not even bothered with a plot of action to treat this mindset.

Examples

This mindset certainly has a blindfolding effect eg African girls aspiring
to be like their “blonde Barbie dolls”. African men dream of marrying “a
Barbie doll” type of woman as soon as they arrive in Europe and or
UK/USA/Canada, so as not to have “too black” children. Michael Jackson’s
obsession with his costly body- altering project. It also causes US
Africans/Afrikans to focus on the body, material gadgets, small cuts. The
physical environment of the homes is often out of balance with the people
who inhabit the space. Their homes always have a blonde type Jesus on the
walls but no other well-known Africans like Bantu Biko, Thomas Sankara etc. The
African educationalist and parents both on the mainland, Caribbean and the
Americas have avoided including or making the early and middle years
curricula more relevant to our developmental needs. This opportunity to
change our course of history is missed again and again.

At organisational level, colonise minded but the super qualified committee
members are often worried to place decolonisation strategy and or
Pan-Africanism into the constitution of their organisation. This also
affects the type of name or identity they take on. Eg the NAACP-The National
Association for the Advancement of “Coloured” people. One would have thought
that aparthedist South-Africa racial policies would have caused this
organisation to re-reckon it’s chosen but, they not change from NAACP to
NAAAP. One could only guess when you start your organisation with white
liberals/ or jews in leadership roles, the de-colonisation agenda never
became a priority for this organisation. The OAS/AU is no different. It has
been in existence for over 50 years and still cannot bring itself to be
known as a Pan-Africanist organisation thus, it remains a toothless
nationalistic organisation.

Even when organisations place Pan-Africanism at the forefront eg PAC in
South-African, the de-colonisation process and project, which is necessary
for health and longevity of the organisation is not a priority either. Well
meaning or naïve activists continue to take a gamble by hoping against hope
that, a few committed and reliable people could suddenly change 400 years of
psychological hurt facing the African worldwide. Things could have been
different if, the PAC was able to capture the interest and support of the
majority of the 24 million native South-Africans and their rands, to keep
the movement financially buoyant and turn it into a political powerful force
in South-African society.

The mindset nutures self-hating , self- destruction and confidence lowering
. This is evident in the practice of self- harming through bleaching the
skin, straigthening the hair and looking to Europe and European institutions
as saviours. It also makes killing each other nearly acceptable. The eminent
African-American Bobby E Wright (1984) clarified in his book “we have never
been trained to kill Europeans” but, we seem to be able kill each other
(black on black) violence instinctively. It also makes us have a warped and
unrealistic view of our reality. It may cause some, like Dr Kenneth B Clarke
to say,” race is irrelevant”. Even African-America Dr Alvin Poussant, who
used his qualification avoid addressing the current colonisation condition.
He used his stint in Ebony Magazine to deal with the a few middles class
anxieties. What a shame!

The Slave/Colonial mindset-the Trojan Horse

The Europeans know how vital the psychological warfare project is
to their continued hold on Africa, which is why they got their missionaries
to influences chiefs and other leaders in Africa, to send their young
children to their missionary schools. At these missionary/faith-based
schools, young children were indoctrinated on a grand scale. These young
children come from cultures where, nearly all adults are feared and or
certainly not questioned, made the work of the European teachers simpler.
This is why it should not alarm us or surprise us that, Mobutu, Savimbi and
their cronies behaved in the way they did to their own people and their own
resources. The mindset, the lust for power and foreign money-from the USA
mainly kept them destroying their respective countries, in the name of
capitalism and the other G6 powers.

The USA officials who paid Savimbi through Mobutu millions and millions of
American tax-payers money to literally ruin a revolution and 2 countries,
have never been brought to justice. If both of these colonial minded
individuals did not die, they would be still destroying the country and
squandering their resources for self-aggrandisement, with Washington’s
approval. The foreign powers/handlers knew millions of people were being
tortured, kill, maimed, punished and starved of food and other life
necessities, in their interest. Whilst all this was happening in full view
of other Africans, many of them in the Caribbean and continued going to the
states” to make it”. Meanwhile Africans affected by these individuals and
American money and foreign policy, eventually started heading for the UK and
the USA seeking “refuge”.

It should not surprise us at the way the Europeans view certain individuals.
The American state had to get rid of Malcolm X by any means necessary. The
Belgian/USA/UK governments saw Patrice Lumumba as an uncompromising
character when it came to his understanding of independence. France could
not stomach an independent minded Thomas Sankara who wanted to transform
Bukina Faso in the interest of it’s people. The apartheid South-Africa did
not dare allow Bantu Stephen Biko to live-he was too clear about his
position and his understanding of the social/economic/political situation.
He wanted all or nothing. Walter Rodney exposed the hypocrisy of Europe’s
role in Africa-it became a real annoyance in European academic circles. The
under-development was the strategy and the means to achieving this outcome
was to nurture their own “loyal Africans”. Off course the “loyal Africans”
are another name for the colonial minded.

Rich men and women often have their “kept women” Well, so to rich Europe has
their “kept men”. France has Francoise Compoare of Bukina Faso. The USA has
theirs in the form of Paul Kagame. Spain/USA has Obiang Nguema of Equatorial
Guinea- Africa third largest producer of oil. Shell and the UK and other oil
companies operating in Nigeria have been keeping the Hausa dominated army
and government since 1970. The CIA/USA/France had army man Hissen Habre- a
man who was less than friendly to USA’s imagined enemy Gadaffi. Chadian
named him, “Africa’s Pinochet”. USA supported the Duvalier family for 30
years and off course Savimbi in Angola. See William Blum(2001) Rogue State.
Chapter 17.
The Consequences

If African thinkers and educationalists alike continue to neglect the
content of early and middle years curricula, they would be fighting a losing
battle against the slave/colonial mindset, capitalism, fashion and
mass-media. The same way, one cannot expect to place new wine in an ancient
wineskin so to, one cannot expect the slave/colonial minded to suddenly
change his or her learnt behaviour. This behaviour has been around for the
last 350 years. It might have started as, a means of coping in weird and
often hostile societies in the Caribbean and America in the late 17th
century. Joy Leary would argue African communities must admit the existence
of post traumatic syndrome before, the treatment could be sought. No
admission means that, this major debilitating psychological condition would
linger and fester away.

Off course when a few like, Thiongo’o(1938-) changed his behaviour in his
adulthood, by going back to his Gikuyu name and writing in his own language
rather than English only, is inspirational to rest who remain in this
regressive state of mind. He used his book-Decolonising the mind: the
politics of language in African literature(1986) as a platform to encourage
African challenged about their attitude towards Africa and or NJAC. Ngugi wa
writers to write in their own language to make their books more meaningful
to Africans on the continent. It is not only about writing in one’s own
language although, that is a positive start. It is about having a core
teaching curricula that could be used world-wide. Even if people write in
their own indigenous language but continue to see Europe as the solution to
their problems-the colonised mind remains untouched. The writer applauds the
work of Haki Madibuti and Dr Karenga and Molefi Asante. The African need
more people like the above, if we are to be taken seriously.

Why are members of NJAC( National Joint Action committee) and their 36 year
ancient organisation in Trinidad, still viewed as not worthy of support from the
majority of African-Trinidadians? The slave/colonial mindset, which makes
people ridicule members for re-claiming their African heritage via taking on
African names. One can often hear African-Trinidadians and other Africans
born abroad saying in a most offensive voice, “I am not African” when questioned
about their identity. Thai is the colonial mindset expressing their
ignorance.

What do we start?

The logical place for decolonisation to start is in the home, with parents
taking the lead. The early years 0-11 is the crucial time to inculcate the
Afrocentric values. It means that, we have to be prepared to build our own
nurseries and make our own culturally inclusive and sensitive curricula.
The parents must be re-educated. It is nearly pointless waiting until a
child becomes an adult, when he may or may not be exposed to Pan-Africanism.
All the research available would agree that, the pre-natal and early years
are the most vital educating years. Ideally, the decolonisation ideals
should be embedded in the early years curricula, The Community leaders and
families should make attempts to discuss post trauma syndrome and it’s
effects openly and proactively place into place some small term and long term
remedies.

3 African American writers who wrote the The Black Parenting Book did not
pursue the de-colonisation project in their book either. There are 17
chapters in this book yet, Pan-Africanism and or the issue of the
slave/colonial mindset were not addressed in a very active way. There
chapters on Family Traditions and Spirituality without making mention of the
importance of Kwanzaa. There was a chapter on ” Black and Proud” not African
and proud. There should have a chapter on how and why Africans came to self
despise and despise all things African. Where did it all start? The book tackled
particular parenting approach, which was used by African American parents
but, they did not attempt to give the psychological or economic reasons why
most African parents worldwide use the authoritarian model rather than the
authoritative model.

Authoritarian- powerful, assertive/aggressive (verbally or physically adult
leads or makes all the decisions, which are imposed on child. May be highly
critical. Parents may be likely to use shouting and hitting. Parents may
even talk about “I want you to dread me”.
Authoritative- Parents use reciprocity and a democratic style, which allows
child to lead but establishes safe limits and boundaries. Parents are likely
to use encouragement, provide choices and highlight consequences and
positive feedback and use time-out and place penalities in place, as part of
their disciplining package.

It might have been helpful to clarify why some African parents use the
former than the latter? It would have been more useful to write the book in
some African languages and use a work -book with exercises to involve all
members of the family. This book could be described as the product of a well
meaning qualified but, obviously apolitical professionals. The writers
tackled all the symptoms but never ventured near the core causes. They
missed an opportunity to focus on the link between the type of the society,
which produces such parents focusing on a post-colonial/slave/capitalist,
racist society such as the USA.

Conclusion.

The Decolonisation project and treating post trauma syndrome are as
necessary to Africans, as oxygen and water are to humankind existence.
Neither can be avoided any longer due to it being “too sensitive” an issue.
The message to all the Pan-Africanists/Humanist individuals, families and
organisations , which are always small of committed, reliable and discipline
foot soldiers is this, place some of your efforts and money into the 0-11
years olds and an African Parenting project, based on an Afrocentric model
and treatment for psychological trauma and other self-harming behaviour. If
any individual/family or organisation is interested ion the guture well
being of Africans- the aforementioned approaches are vital. Otherwise, a
plethora of colonial minded and dishonest Pastors from diverse Christian
sects, the mass-media, fashion, cars and small term attractions and whatever
other European cultural left-overs would grab the minds of the majority of
Africans.

The slave/colonial mind is perilous to Pan-Africanist and African humanist
alike. Those African “kept men” or Europe’s trojan horses will continue the
pauperization policies of a very rich continent. They will repeat policies
and slogans without even analysing them. They will like the major obstacle
to progress, changes, self-empowerment and unification of African peoples.
Instead of enabling and building capacities and re-skilling people, they
will disable, de-skill and pauperize people. The colonial minded knows
nothing else. The Europeans using their white skins as authority continue to
pamper and encourage their “kept men” to the detriment of the majority of
Africans, who continue to suffer and to be killed with the weapons made in
the USA/UK/Israel and other European countries.

References:

Akbar Na’im(1992) Chain and Images of psychological slavery- Winston-Derek,
Nashville, TN
Blumm W (2003) Rogue State: Chapter 17. Zed Books London UK
Brittain V (1998) Death and Dignity: Angola’s Civil War. Chapter 2. Pluto
Books. London UK
Woodson C.G (1937) The Mis-education of the negro. Africa World Press NJ USA
Wright B.E (1984) The psychopathic racial personality and other essays.
Third World Press Chicago, Ilinois USA

Best answer:

Answer by Dave B
I reckon I lost interest.

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The Kinky Psychologist?

Question by ViiTaL iiMaG3: The Kinky Psychologist?
A very shy guy goes into a bar and sees a gorgeous woman sitting at the bar. After an hour of gathering up his courage he finally goes over to her and questions, tentatively, “Um, would you mind if I chatted with you for a while?”

She responds by yelling, at the top of her lungs, “No, I won’t sleep with you tonight!”

Everyone in the bar is now staring at them. Naturally, the guy is hopelessly and completely embarrassed and he slinks back to his table.

After a few minutes, the woman walks over to him and apologizes. She smiles at him and says, “I’m sorry if I embarrassed you. You see, I’m a graduate student in psychology and I’m studying how people respond to embarrassing situations.”

To which he responds, at the top of his lungs, “200 DOLLARS? YOU’RE OUT OF YOUR MIND!”

Best answer:

Answer by 23rd person
i doubt a shy guy would do that………

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What can make the schizophrenic do to ensure a (semi) conquered life?

Question by Jay Tsu: What can make the schizophrenic do to ensure a (semi) conquered life?
I just finished the movie “A Gorgeous Mind” and although this movie triggered my question, it has very small relevance to do with the movie other than the topic of schizophrenia.

The thoughts I am about to lay out are solely speculation. I must warn you that they are rather lengthy, so if you are discouraged at anytime feel free to courageous the boredom no more. (I would have place this under Psychology/Philosophy if I had that choice.)

Here I go. . . .

A person suffering from schizophrenia (let’s stick to visual schizophrenia here) is still capable of some form of cognitive reasoning, agreed? That is, a schizophrenic’s fabrications are fictional but hold form and structure embedded with “truth.” Truths about fictions in other words. For example: a schizophrenic is still capable of “seeing” (in Hume’s terminology) “impressions” or things that are a priori and are not solely dominated by “complex thoughts.” A schizophrenic is able to hold logically–or intrinsically or after having been conditioned prior to his illness–that a skirt is worn by a woman on a certain region of her body, or a pen is used for writing. All this, people would not consider extraordinary or even worthy of noting. (Heidegger made a excellent point on the ready-at-hand and the present-at-hand and in a sense I am borrowing his ideology to present this question.) Let us now say that a schizophrenic’s mind can keep or retain (I believe the right usage would not be “keep” or “retain” but rather “flow” or “unknowingly mobilize”) these “ready-at-hand” skills that need no intentionality or speculation: Would he or she then not already have showed some control over his or her condition?

Scenario one: A schizophrenic observes a human being that only exists in his mind. He is able to make out his face, his arms, his hands, his legs–that is everything that a typical human would have. What keeps the schizophrenic’s mind from being able to stay grounded to these selections? Why not just hop off the whole logical spectrum and compose a “complex thought” of–let’s say–a man with a shoe for a mouth and carrots for ears?

Scenario two: A schizophrenic observes a pen on a table which he can only see. He looks at it; he may even be able to “pick” it up and examine it’s details. He can maybe even “disassemble” it and watch the parts manifest themselves because–let’s say–he has disassembled a material pen in the past prior to his illness. What keeps the mind from being able to not only archive these blueprints and “impressions” but extract them as well?

Also, a related thought pertaining to both scenarios. Let us assume that this schizophrenic is beyond the stage of denial (that is he has accepted his condition and is learning to cope with it): What kind of tests could he perform to garner credibility, validity, and reality? Cartesian tests are out of the question. No, let me postulate the same method one uses to buy lucidity in dreams. The light levels in a dream are inconsistent, the complex patterns on a rug cannot be recalled twice, the same brick wall will never look the same if examined more than once. So in the question of the schizophrenic, Can he not look away from that pen and look at it again and try to see its undefined and inconsistent change in patterns, size, shape, lighting, and etc. as tests for reality?

I am aware that these tests and cognitive processes may be too complex for one who is really suffering from schizophrenia. I am also aware that I may have assumed too much to the point where I can be said to have effaced the gravity of the illness in my speculations. For that I am sorry. But again I am only speculating and I want to learn from you.

I do agree that this question is rather lengthy, so for those of you who have grown bored of this question or realize that getting two free points here may really seem questionable, please feel free to click the back key. But for those of you have remained here and have been trying to follow my thought(s)–I know I didn’t do such a fantastic job explaining everything–I really appreciate it. To your disappointment, I do have one last question, one that concerns even more philosophy.

Let us assume that our schizophrenic is no average schizophrenic (the hell does that even mean?) but that in the past he was learned in existential philosophy, and especially that of the notion of the “absurd.” (I’m going to assume that some–if not all–of this knowledge remains when he is ill). Let us assume that our schizophrenic in question was an introspective person who was keen on his surroundings in the past–one who could study phenomenon in the background and be “present” and initiated with the project. Now let us propose a scenario in which he encounters a recurring character of his mind wherever he happens to be: the shower, the toilet, the garage, the basement. Given that he is introspective and not simply falling-in-with his surroundings and its resources, can he not see the absurdi
@theartistwin: I do not know where your contempt is coming from. And in no way would I “use” people the way you described.

But I now have a question for you. In not choosing a best answer do I inevitably and immediately take on an “elitist” title and reckon myself “vital”? In not choosing a best answer is it inevitable that only one conclusion can be drawn–that is, I do not acknowledge the effort of the people who answered them and only wanted to use them for my “gratification”? Perhaps I acknowledge them too much to “choose” between answers for the “best” answer. And then there’s the thing with people who share your views. I’m worried of angering people who might say, “Oh, why didn’t I get the best answer, you ____!” You remind me of the Greek gods. Praise Aprhodite but in doing so rage Hera and Athena.

Stop thinking so goal oriented. It is not mandatory that I share your same motives! Please don’t make me just a product and extension of your thought. I beg for free will!
@Miss G: Thanks for sharing. I guess knowledge does come after existence. Therefore, only a schizophrenic would know the answer(s)–but not necessarily be able to “give” the answer.

I’m still open for speculations though.

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Answer by thatartistwin
Can I question you why you desire to have people read your long winded thoughts and then never even have the respect or decency to pick a best answer? You always read the answers (I assume) to your overthought essays and don’t even reckon the most well thought out answer worthy of your best answer tiny click of a mouse. Granted I never answered your questions, but I find it unfortunate for the many intelligent people, you thought yourself vital enough to ignore their answers in the realm of this forum and only use them for your own gratification.

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Q&A: Psychology – Not so good!?

Question by ViiTaL iiMaG3: Psychology – Not so excellent!?
A very shy guy goes into a bar and sees a gorgeous woman sitting at the bar. After an hour of gathering up his courage he finally goes over to her and questions, tentatively, “Um, would you mind if I chatted with you for a while?”

She responds by yelling, at the top of her lungs, “No, I won’t sleep with you tonight!”

Everyone in the bar is now staring at them. Naturally, the guy is hopelessly and completely embarrassed and he slinks back to his table.

After a few minutes, the woman walks over to him and apologizes. She smiles at him and says, “I’m sorry if I embarrassed you. You see, I’m a graduate student in psychology and I’m studying how people respond to embarrassing situations.”

To which he responds, at the top of his lungs, “200 DOLLARS? YOU’RE OUT OF YOUR MIND!”

Best answer:

Answer by MegSong
She got more research. I reckon it’s amusing.

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Can you “think” yourself pregnant?

Question by roarmrdinosaur: Can you “reckon” yourself pregnant?
My psychology teacher today told us that there are cases of women “thinking” they are pregnant and then they really become pregnant. They stop their period, grow a belly and grow larger breasts. All the stages and signs of a normal pregnancy but when it was time to really go into labor all the woman pushed out was air. I’m a bit skeptical about this…Is there anyone that has more information?

Best answer:

Answer by Joey Alexandru
Things like that do happen. The mind is a powerful thing.

For example, there is this actual syndrome called Medical Student’s Symdrome in which medical students start developing symptoms of whatever disease they may be studying.

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Mature Women Please… Would you date someone like me?

Question by Dan: Mature Women Please… Would you date someone like me?
OK, I am going to make this as brief as possible.

I reckon I am kind of average looking (some people tell me I am being humble, but be that as it may), I am pretty well educated (have a B.S. in Journalism and a minor in Psychology), I work out — I have a small gut — but all in all, I am healthy and strong, just with a larger frame as I said.

Here are my issues… I have social anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder (unfortunately, those two disorders go hand and hand). And also, when I was younger, in order to get these disorders under control, I saw a doctor who place me on a steroid. When he did so, an unfortunate side effect was weight gain and I got some stretch marks.

So, I know that you can’t speak for everyone, but I want to hear as many opinions about what you reckon. Do I have too much baggage to get into a relationship with? How much do each of these bother you? And please, I am trying to “get out of my own mind” — please don’t question what I would do and were dating a woman with stretch marks or social anxiety or whatever — I want to know what others reckon and not continue to dwell over what I reckon.

If you wouldn’t mind — I don’t care about getting points for someone starring my question or whatever, but if you don’t mind, please star my question as it may draw some more responses for me to look at. Thank-you ahead of time for taking this seriously.

Best answer:

Answer by Piano’s LUVR
well, i got stretch marks…soooo…i dont care if you have some. the belly thing, i like my guys a small fluffy. lol. Personally, I dont dig skinny guys. I like me a manly man.

As far as the mental things, I reckon as long as you have it under control, and we could have a normal relationship and do normal things couples do, sure i would date you.

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Q&A: What kind of things do women like to talk about in “engaging” conversations?

Question by Samian’s 26th Account: What kind of things do women like to talk about in “engaging” conversations?
I mean, I really doubt a girl is going to reckon, “whoa, we really click!” if I kept on going on about how Obama’s budget deficits are going to turn out economy into Greece’s.
Nor do I reckon they’d particularly care about developments in child psychology.

What should I do?
What do women delight in talking about?

Best answer:

Answer by Ian and jake
The things a woman enjoys talking about depends on the woman, my girlfriend despises talking about herself and whenever i question how she was she hits me in the back of the head, if you wanna know what she likes to talk about question her, talk about her interests because just talking about the same stuff if you don’t like it too is not going to do anything.

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Witchy Boss and that’s not really the word I wanted to use. What should I do?

I also place this q in Psychology but I wasn’t sure if I would get that many responses there so I added it here.
Okay so here’s the problem. I am not yet working at this store BUT yesterday was the 1st official meeting.Yesterday ( In yahoo answers ), I questioned a question about a group of people but today after I pondered how the Manager helped me (supposedly) I am sitting wondering if I am going to be able to work w/ this woman.
So here’ the deal. I had an issue w/ the owners of the store where I am going to work because they are from Pakistan( y’all helped me solve that thanks by the way .I also had some smaller concerns that I needed to resolve and so questioned the manager if I could have a word w/ her.

We went through the smaller concerns without a problem but when it came to talking about the owners,she told me ” Well then you are working in the incorrect Company” No joke , and she is supposed to be an ordained minister and this was her answer. That is why I questioned the question here because I couldn’t get her to help me through it.
BUT what really got me was as I was trying to talk to her about this she was slowly trying to leave the room as if the conversation was over. I really needed to get her to help me and I felt like she really didn’t want to talk about it.
I am not too keen on female managers that act more like insensitive guys and who also look like a guy. I know that sounds really prejudice but she really seems more like a guy.
Her attitude and how she handled this really upset me and I am not sure I can work w/a woman that has the sensitivity of a rock at the bottom of the ocean. Am I being too harsh ? If you can imagine the situation , what would you do and could you work for a boos that was like this.
Please , be serious when answering and reckon your answers through. I have gone over it in my mind and really don’t reckon I can work for this woman but anyone that has a excellent way to accept or handle this could change my view point.

Do risky boys impress the girls?

According to recent research, when questioned to perform a set of risky tasks, men will attempt them more often if the person who questions is an attractive woman.

“Professor Bill von Hippel and doctoral student Richard Ronay from the School of Psychology at University of Queensland conducted a field experiment with a group of young male skateboarders, learning that the males took more risks at the skate park when observed by an attractive female staff-member than when observed by a male equivalent.”

Assuming these findings are right, do you reckon that women are impressed when men show off and take risks? Why or why not?

This topic is also being discussed in detail here: http://www.roundinspirals.com/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=117

What’s wrong with your friend?

This is a personal question but I am just trying to know and not be biased.

I fell in like with my best friend, that seems like the best way to fall in like for me. I have seen a study that says 71% of people reckon thats best too. I thought people wanted to be loved, respected and understood, who better than a friend to do that? She told me its either there from the start or its not.

So my question is, if you have a best friend who likes, respects and understands you why would you not consider them as a romantic partner? Whats incorrect with them?

I’m not being naive, I have read about evolutionary psychology, is that what we really want? Should we not be better than animals? Why rule him out based on a lack of *initial* chemistry? Don’t you know that right like takes time?

Why is it creepy for a friend who you like to like you more? Who made those boundaries and why? Is it because if things don’t work out with a friend it hurts so much more? Is it because the right romantic characteristics were not showed from the start? If you didn’t see a certain side of someone earlier it seems uncharacteristic later? Why place a time limit on something so vital?

I have questioned myself why I don’t like my other female friends, thinking of one in particular, she is a very attractive woman but she is ‘just a friend’ because we are not that close, we don’t really connect, we don’t have enough in common. She’s not in the ‘Friend Zone’ we are just not right for each other, I expect she feels the same.

I am very attracted to older women, Is there something wrong with me? Friend says i have “Mommy Issues”?

Hi, I told my friend that I had a crush on my female Biology professor who is 35, and my psychiatrist who is 36, and I am a 22 year ancient college sr. Boh of them are very intelligent, and very gorgeous, and are wise and simple to talk to. I have always liked older women young girls didn’t appeal to me and are immature. So i was telling my friend this (psychology major) and she started asking me questions about my relationship with my mom, and i told her my mom and i were never close, and she claims that plays a major role in me looking for affection from older women, do you reckon she’s right?

Question for feminists on male dominated v female dominated careers/college degrees?

This is going to be long but impotant (to me anyway)

Why is it that in female dominated areas of college or business such as: teaching, nursing, childcare the reason for the gap in representation of males is considered to be men not applying for jobs or college courses in those field. I do to a large degree agree with this.

BUt now we reverse the genders to politics, Sci, Tech and suddenly it all changes. Why is this?

Say if a female highschool grad applies for a position in college for Science, engineering, political sci etc.. isn’t it illegal for the college to reject her on basis of sex? If her merits usually gradewise are high enough she will get in. Likewise if she then graduated from said college course and applies for a job in that particular carrer that is also illegal for a business to reject her if her merits are highest. Legally only a person with highest merits gets a job.

But do you not agree it is the same because women simply are not applying for college course like politics, women are going into liberal arts areas.

So does the view of men choosing not to go into female dominated areas not applying to male dominated areas like women are just not applying for male dom positions? It seems like trying to make men look like we’re holding women donw but this is highly illegal.

If you read this article in swedish colleges you’ll read they are thinking of abolitiing gender quotas because women simply are not applying for couses in male dominated fields so only male students are benefiting from the quotas and are sliding into female dominated fields like psychology, teaching etc…:

http://www.thelocal.se/24330/20100112/

THis shows women are not applying for male dominated areas. How is this men’s fault. Yet When men dont apply for female areas that is our choice not to?

thanks

Girls, Can you tell me about your Sexy feelings?

I’m writing an article about psychology of women.please tell me about yourselves when feeling sexy.
for example: What do you reckon about in that moments? And many more questions like this.
You are female.you know these thing better!

Difference Between Male and Female Post Workout Nutrition

Copyright (c) 2008 Jimmy Smith

This doesn’t really get discussed much and everyone pretty much assumes it is the same, it isn’t and there’s one huge difference that most people don’t account for. The psychology difference between men and women is the single largest determing factor in their post workout nutrition. Here’s an example of how you would describe the importance of post workout nutrition to a man versus to a woman.

Man: “Go home, make sure you get your protein shake in the car or right when you walk in the door. You better take some carbs with it as well, maybe a sweet potato or oatmeal. Oh, it would be a excellent thought to add some creatine in too.”

Woman: “Is today going to be the day that you’ll try a protein shake? No? Ok, how about eating some chicken, maybe in a salad and a few pieces of fruit? You don’t feel like eating right after your workout? Ok, then wait 30 minutes to eat.”

That is a huge difference right there. One is assertive and indicates that unless you have your protein and carbs or protein and healthy stout post workout that you’ll run the risk of eating muscle tissue and not recovering. The second is like pulling teeth and hoping that there will be compliance.

That’s not to say that women are hard, it’s just that they can’t mentally picture themselves eating food right after they workout and most women don’t even want the 100 calories or so that come in a protein shake.

It’s just a case of not being able to knock a wall down with a hammer. You have to go around the wall. Explaining the benefits of proper post workout nutrition might work for 1 out of every 5 women so don’t give up but don’t reckon you are going to educate everyone.

The best way around it is to work hard at making sure the other meals are point on. Post workout nutrition is vital but it isn’t any more vital than any other meal a day. It’s the classic thing that you see with 15-18 year ancient guys. They work out, have a shake and some carbs then don’t eat for another two hours until they have pizza and wonder why they don’t grow.

I’ll take someone not eating the proper macronutrients post workout if they will be as perfect as they can personally be for the rest of the day. It’s a lesson that needs to be learned by everyone who steps foot into a gym. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t eat right after you train, life gets in the way but don’t be worried to test the waters either.

Ok enough psychology. What are the best formulas and methods for maximizing post workout nutrition? It really stays the same for both men and women. I generally recommend:

20-40 gram of whey protein 5 grams of L-Leucine 5 grams of BCAA

2 tbsp natural peanut butter.

Now it gets fascinating when we look at stout loss versus muscle building.

For adding muscle, I recommend a carb source such as oatmeal or yams that are slow absorbing and therefore don’t spike your blood sugar levels. We do not some sort of insulin spike post workout but not too much as it can lead to a double release of insulin.

For dropping body stout, I recommend 10-20 grams of glycine and 10-20 grams of glutamine. These amino acids are known for having a distressing effect on the body so that we can repair optimal and they will be likely turned to glucose to provide energy in the absences of carbs. This is another way to replenish used muscle glucose and recover without carbs.

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Sexual Dysfunction in Females – General Information

First things first, just what is this sexual dysfunction? It refers to the inability of a woman to experience sexual orgasm. If you reckon that you are alone, then you are incorrect! The challenge is that most women do not speak about such issues. If you were to have a small gossip of just how many women colleagues experience lack of orgasm, you would be surprised that there are many of you in the club.

It is hard to know if this is problem is rising or decreasing in the world today. Because of the continued silence among women, especially the traditional woman, there is small information. Yet this silence is the main cause of continued lack of sexual satisfaction among women.

For most women, the lack of knowledge on the causes of sexual dysfunction is the contributing factor for shyness in addressing the problem. More often than not, the woman with sexual satisfaction problem would be blaming self and not taking measures to reverse the problem.

It is right that you can reverse or manage the causes of the sexual dysfunction. Some of the causes are psychological. For example, a depression caused by financial problems, conflict between spouses or unresolved problems can lead to lack of enjoyment of sex.

Other causes include medical conditions. This may involve the lax of muscles around the vagina and the pelvic areas. Where there is infection such as Chlamydia and syphilis, the entry to the vagina may be affected and may lead to experiencing of pain during sex. The reflex action which occurs due to the memory of previous pain during intercourse may prevent pleasure during sexual intercourse.

Hormonal imbalance can also lead to lack of desire for sex. Low levels of estrogen can lead to loss of sensuality during sexual intercourse. This is more common among those who have reached menopause age. Therefore if you are a woman who is 40 years and above, you are more likely to experience more sexual dysfunction.

The remedies for loss of libido in women vary per woman. Some may work for you but not all would work for you. It all depends on the course of the problem. It is therefore vital that you know the course and have specific solution. Physical exercises including kegel exercises that strengthen the vaginal muscles have been shown to be effective

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3 Stunning Psychological Tactics To Make Girls Like You – You’ll Laugh To Yourself At How Easy It Is

One of the most frequent questions most guys out there tend to have is how can they make a girl like them? How can they make that fantastic long lasting impression which would make the girl reckon about them all the time? A lot of guys out there struggle in this area and often blame it on their looks which really doesn’t count that much to women. You see it’s not really about your looks but how excellent you are at pressing the female buttons. Read on to learn some of the most effective psychological tricks which would make any girl like you within seconds…..

Talk more to her friends then to her- If she is your target girl then more sure that you talk more to her friends then her. Doing this would make her feel jealous a bit and at the same time she would try hard to join into the conversation because she is just not able to get your attention that easily anymore.

Let her know that you have noticed something fascinating about her but can’t say it- This trick seems to work all the time and it would get any girl nearly crazy thinking about you. This works because it tends to raise her levels of curiosity where she wants to know what you really wanted to tell her and what’s really stopping you at the same time. Her interest levels in you will always be high as long as she doesn’t know what you were about to tell her.

Don’t be outcome dependent- Forget that you even want to be with this girl rather be around this girl and at the same time talk about other girls. This would make her reckon why she didn’t really appeal that much to you due to which you are talking about other girls around her. She would instantly start seeking your attention after this.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women really want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to learn 9 most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know. This is something you can’t afford to miss at any cost click here- Tell Me The Secrets

Here Is Something You Should Never Do In Bed – Don’t Even Think About Missing This

Every guy out there wants to be fantastic in bed but you simply can not be excellent in bed unless you know female sexual psychology and the way they reckon in bed. Women always complain that their man just does not know their needs due to which they always end up having issues in the relationship. There are things men do in bed which are really disliked by women. Read on to learn what these things are before it’s too late for you…

Read what she expects- Most men out there are absolutely clueless when it comes to the matter of reading her signals in bed. You see women might not be completely open about their needs in bed and might never tell you what they are looking for. Therefore it is your job to read their body language and see what they are truly looking for. The problem is that a lot of men out there are just trying to reckon about their own pleasure then the pleasure of the girl. Always remember that when you focus more on her she would do the same to give you maximum pleasure possible.

Stop being mechanical- A girl would never be completely satisfied in bed unless she has had some emotional satisfaction. You see for females it’s more about what they feel in the mind than the body. Some guys tend to do everything as quick as possible without any foreplay or any sort of initial stimulation. Women always take longer than men in order to achieve an eventual climax and it can never be possible if the guy just keeps doing the same thing over and over again without putting any real effort into considering her emotional needs.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women really want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to learn 9 most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know. This is something you can’t afford to miss at any cost click here- Tell Me The Secrets

Female Erogenous Zones – 4 to Target and Drive your Partner Wild

Here we are going to look at female erogenous zones that can drive your partner wild with desire and there not the obvious ones.

One of the most vital criteria for better or even fantastic sex is adding some variety and the element of surprise and these three are neglected!

So let’s look at them.

1. The Inner Thighs

Most men in this region simply head for the obvious but you can heighten the eventual pleasure and arouse your partner simply by lingering in this area.

For all women this area is one to target. Kiss and lick moving up and at the last minute moving back down.

Not only is this area sensitive and erotic for women it also has the psychological impact of making her reckon what is coming next and when.

Teasing is a fantastic turn on and there is no better area to tease than the inner thighs

2. The Neck

If you have read our articles on French kissing, you will know that the best way to proceed after a fantastic kiss on the lips is to target the neck.

There is no better way to get your partner in the mood to go further than to lightly kiss nibble or lick the neck.

The neck is full of nerve endings and targeting it will drive her wild.

One word of caution don’t get too carried away. Many women won’t appreciate it if they end up with a like bite and visible bruising.

3. The buttocks

What women is not conscious about her bottom?

Well, in a recent poll 79% said they were not satisfied with it, so pay it some attention and say its gorgeous kiss it, lick it, squeeze it and nibble it.

This is psychological as well as physical most women like to know their men appreciate them and an area they can be conscious of as not being their best asset

4. The Back

What does a massage do?

It relaxes you and one of the keys for women to become fully sexually aroused is to be relaxed.

Relax her by massaging her shoulders and running your hands down the side of the spine while pressing and massaging.

Then go to kissing the shoulders and licking and licking the spine area.

Pay special attention to the end of the spine, just above the buttocks.

Kissing and licking here is an incredible tease for any women and is extremely sensuous.

There are more erogenous zones

These are just 4 erogenous zones that men don’t pay enough attention to so make sure you do and drive your partner wild with desire and passion.

Female Erogenous Zones, Erogenous Zones

Here we are going to look at female erogenous zones that can drive your partner wild with desire and there not the obvious ones.

One of the most vital criteria for better or even fantastic sex is adding some variety and the element of surprise and these three are neglected!

So let’s look at them.

1. The Inner Thighs

Most men in this region simply head for the obvious but you can heighten the eventual pleasure and arouse your partner simply by lingering in this area.

For all women this area is one to target. Kiss and lick moving up and at the last minute moving back down.

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Not only is this area sensitive and erotic for women it also has the psychological impact of making her reckon what is coming next and when.

Teasing is a fantastic turn on and there is no better area to tease than the inner thighs

2. The Neck

If you have read our articles on French kissing, you will know that the best way to proceed after a fantastic kiss on the lips is to target the neck.

There is no better way to get your partner in the mood to go further than to lightly kiss nibble or lick the neck.

The neck is full of nerve endings and targeting it will drive her wild.

One word of caution don’t get too carried away. Many women won’t appreciate it if they end up with a like bite and visible bruising.

3. The buttocks

What women is not conscious about her bottom?

Well, in a recent poll 79% said they were not satisfied with it, so pay it some attention and say its gorgeous kiss it, lick it, squeeze it and nibble it.

This is psychological as well as physical most women like to know their men appreciate them and an area they can be conscious of as not being their best asset

Learn How To Ignite Your Lovemaking at 500 Lovemaking Tips

4. The Back

What does a massage do?

It relaxes you and one of the keys for women to become fully sexually aroused is to be relaxed.

Relax her by massaging her shoulders and running your hands down the side of the spine while pressing and massaging.

Then go to kissing the shoulders and licking and licking the spine area.

Pay special attention to the end of the spine, just above the buttocks.

Kissing and licking here is an incredible tease for any women and is extremely sensuous.

There are more erogenous zones

These are just 4 erogenous zones that men don’t pay enough attention to so make sure you do and drive your partner wild with desire and passion.

Learn How To Ignite Your Lovemaking at 500 Lovemaking Tips

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Happy Women In Advertisements & Making Money Working From Home Secret Info

Featuring a female model in advertisements initially started with advertisements on products like alcohol and adult entertainment. The trend then spread like a wildfire in the market and is still being widely used although being exaggerated. It has become a compulsion now to have a gorgeous model in all kinds of advertisement, which sometimes seems unnecessary. They seem to sell anything from shaving gel to cars.

Many women right activists say that the women are being projected as merely an object by such advertisements. But the harsh truth is that advertisements featuring women is influencing viewers of all ages and advertisers have realized this. The advertisement starts with an attractive woman posing in seductive ways followed by the product or the service offered by the company. The beauty of the model already lures the customer, so advertisers do not have to place in more effort to motivate them.

But there are certain drawbacks in using women models in some advertisements and if a consumer is smart enough, it won’t take time for him to realize that. It is really irrelevant to feature a female model or an actress in advertisement promoting men products. Some excellent examples of this point are showing a woman in axe deodorant commercial and comparison of a partially nude woman’s body to the body of a car. Second drawback is due to more concentration on the model, the attention deserved by the product is not sufficient. The main focus of the advertisement is lost.

Surprisingly only few male models advertises for male oriented products. Even a picture of a woman on an Internet commercial seems not logical to some extent, as there are thirty percent of female internet users and seventy percent of male internet users, worldwide. To add to it, advertisers cannot clarify why gorgeous bodies bring success to advertisement.

Advertisements are convincing and motivating tool, which can leave a deep impact on the minds of the viewers and plays a major role in molding the culture and attitude of the people. Expansive and extensive portraying of women in this manner merely reduces their image to an object of passion. Emphasis is laid only on the physical beauty of the woman like features, body curves. After the commercial has been shot, using graphical technology, any kind of imperfection of the body is altered which in a way sends out the signal that only perfect people are meant to use the product.

The companies have a moral responsibility also in the society. These commercials have a negative impact on the society and leads to problems faced for the common woman. The major ill effect is the pressure on woman to get those near-perfect bodies. They get so pressurized that they take the unhealthy way to reach the set goals. They develop eating disorders; their health gets affected which may sometimes result in irreparable hurts. And those who never make it to that point, face humiliation and get taunted by everyone around them. This results in depression and other long-term psychological diseases.

According to researches and surveys conducted, most of the women vow that commercials lower their self-confidence and they visualize themselves as unattractive due to the image being described of the perfect woman in ads. In America, seventy-five percent of healthy females reckon that they are over-weight. Half of the women populations are on some kind of diet program and nearly ten million women suffer from serious eating disorders. The weight of a fashion model is twenty three percent less than an average weighed ordinary woman.

Advertisements haven’t spared women being beaten up. In a particular after shave lotion commercial, the background voice says that its essential to learn martial arts because once a man applies the company’s product, women around will be attracted and will pounce on him. Towards the end of the commercial, they show a male model kicking several women model that seem to have attracted to him. This is degradation of respect of women to the lowest level.

After all this exposure, women viewers identify themselves as the weaker sex. Some reckon that males choose their self-worth. Over exposure of women as sex objects have triggered cases of physical assault and rapes. Majority of the women are taking the incorrect way to get those stick figures, which are results in diseases, sometimes leading to death. And most of this is attributed to the advertisements that pour into the lives of innocent people everyday. Marketing ethics should be built to raise the status of woman in the society and give them the due respect but not degrade them.

Explanations For Women’s Sexual Experiences

People who like to talk confidently about sex often claim that women can orgasm easily from vaginal intercourse. I am very pleased for anyone who can achieve simple orgasm and yet, when I question for details, the responses tend to be frustratingly vague and defensive. I am not questioning that orgasm may happen ‘naturally’ or ‘automatically’ for some women but it would be more convincing if explanations of women’s experiences did not contradict the physical and psychological facts of women’s sexuality.

Well loved beliefs mean that many people assume that women ‘naturally’ orgasm during sex. I have been advised to read a sex manual as if only extreme sexual ignorance can clarify a lack of orgasm for women today. Alternatively, I am questioned, with a sympathetic expression, about my feelings for my partner: “Do you find him attractive? Do you like him?” The implication is that orgasm comes naturally when a woman truly likes a man.

“The woman-in-the-street (most of us) still has the impression that it is ‘normal’ to orgasm from male thrusting.” (p49 The Hite Reports 1993)

More informed sources commonly clarify women’s lack of sexual arousal during sex and their failure to reach orgasm during intercourse by:

 

some deficiency on the part of the woman (i.e. that she is either physically or psychologically abnormal in some way); or ignorance (i.e. that we are not doing it right) including the suggestion that the man might be an incompetent lover.

A well loved suggestion is that women have emotional hang-ups about sex and yet it is not logical that women should be more inhibited in their intimate relationships than men are. Given women’s much closer emotional intimacy with friends and their children, it seems more likely that if anyone is going to be emotionally inhibited it would be men not women.

Traditional beliefs about female sexuality clarify why women are told that they (but not men) need a loving relationship to delight in sex (orgasm involves erotic not loving sensations). Of course, the ultimate fall-back is when experts suggest that female orgasm is unimportant, which is only right from a reproductive point of view and when a woman has no expectation for orgasm.

Facts versus sexual fantasy

Most boys work out how to delight in orgasm through masturbation by the age of 12 or 13. Some women learn orgasm in their late teens, or in their twenties or thirties. Many others never learn orgasm throughout the whole of their lives. These phenomena are often diagnosed as women’s sexual dysfunction but there has to be a more reasonable explanation for these different experiences.

“Orgasms are natural, but intercourse is not, for many of us, the simplest way to have them.” (p79 Woman’s Experience of Sex 1983)

All those magazine articles proposing a million ways to give a woman a mind-blowing orgasm sound very promising but why are they needed in the first place? You rarely see an article explaining how to give a man even one orgasm, mind-blowing or otherwise. These articles prove that there are many women who struggle with orgasm of any description during sex.

It’s about time that sex experts stopped patronising the average couple out there. There are whole books written about female sexual arousal and orgasm so how can it be so straightforward that every woman achieves it as we’d like to reckon? Even the terms ‘arousal and orgasm’ refer to women’s experiences because men’s sexual arousal is usually simple. Yet so often we are told that the solution is as simple and obvious as pressing a button – the clitoris. Evidently, clitoral stimulation is not everything.

Unfortunately, although an increasing number of women question about orgasm during sex, there is no research (sex surveys are notoriously unreliable) that provides the answer. Sex experts do not have the time that I have been able to spend on this issue. As a result of my extensive research, I can vouch for the fact that female arousal is not straightforward. Anyone who implies otherwise is misguided: they have either mis-interpreted their own experiences or they are simply quoting well loved beliefs.

“… since female orgasm is not necessary during intercourse for reproduction to occur, why should nature provide stimulation for female orgasm during intercourse?” (p38 The Hite Reports 1993)

Straight talk: men out-do women in chatter-n-natter

We will place this as straight as possible—do men gossip more than women? Yes, you read it right. The question isn’t do men gossip or not but do they do it more that their female counterparts. The answer is yes—men can ‘out gossip’ women any day of the week and twice on a Sunday.

How did this happen? How did the delicate balance of the world resting on women’s capacity to chatter and gossip tilt towards men blabbering? It would suffice to say that weather permitting both sexes gossip as much as possible. So since when did men start gossiping? While everyman seems to be an authority on the subject of woman’s gossiping skills, there are few who would accept that men seem to be doing it better than their subjects. Men and women gossip about different things and needless to say it’s the notion of what one gossips about that makes it ‘acceptable’.

While women may gossip about the neighbour or everyday things, it’s men who indulge in gossip to boost their egos. Sure it sounds weird but hey it’s been scientifically proven. In a survey conducted for the American Psychological Society results shows that women are or inclined to pass on tittle-tattle to bond with friends and build a closer relationship with colleagues but men were a different tale altogether. While men don’t confess but they delight in gossiping as much as women, they certainly get more out of gossiping than women. Men try and get a kick out of gossiping as they feel superior and better when they criticise someone else’s actions.

Deriving a sense of moral one-upmanship, gossiping allows men to indulge in banter about secret liaisons, inept lovers or even overpaid colleagues providing them with an opportunity to illustrate the difference between right and incorrect. Men pooh-pooh women’s gossip saying that usually it’s trying to bitch about the third missing friend and her atrocious taste in clothes, accessories or even men. It’s just trying to win reciprocal trust and nothing more than that. But men have cracked it. For them it’s entertaining each other without meaning any harm, influencing one another’s opinion without meaning any harm, exchanging vital information without meaning harm, setting the rules right without meaning any harm and last but not the least learning from one another’s mistakes… without meaning any harm.

So why does gossiping, such a powerful and beneficial thing, evoke a more negative image when it comes to men? Why in spite of the sheer numbers is it still considered a terrible thing? Most people would agree that lying is incorrect and usually gossip starts with the classic ‘have you heard…’ line. Gossip thrives on other people’s misfortunes and that’s what men seem to have gotten a drift of, ergo men gossip more. Universally men propagated the notion of women’s gossip being just an indulgence or centuries; which wise men knew it’d work against them when they traveled the same path?

Men always gossiped more than women. Historically men are the original I-can-do-it-better-than-you species. So to reckon that this a new phenomenon would be fooling ourselves. Understanding the benefits and the advantages of the grape wine, men have made gossiping as art. After all don’t we call it social networking nowadays.

Top 10 Wisdoms from Wise Men and Women

How to Survive and Thrive in Business and Life Downturns

1.       “Up to Now…From Now On”    If you have had less than success changing a habit in your life; consider this 6-word rephrase used by Educational Guru, Jack Wolf, PhD.  Instead of saying, “I haven’t been able to exercise regularly”…switch your brain and language to say, “up to now I haven’t exercised regularly but from now on…. I am on a regular exercise program”.  Train your brain to picture a successful outcome and watch it happen.  Your brain believes what you tell it.

2.      “You need Fantastic Trust, Fantastic Taste and Fantastic Tradition in Business” Wise words from Sunalini Menon, Female CEO of Coffeelab in India.  Sunalini reminded a gathering of Women in Coffee that “we make our own destiny through the choices we make”.  Practice “Sankalpa”, a Sanskrit word that means “Determination and Positive Focus” to make better business, a better life and a better world.

3.      “If the Horse is Dead, Get Off”  Fantastic words from Mark Twain, refreshed by Warren Featherbone CEO, Gus Whalen.  Gus should know.  He has seen the evolution and reinvention of his family owned business from corsets to children’s clothing over 125 years.  Keep up with times and trends amidst the tsunamis of business and life.

4.      “Make Longer Lists and Better Choices”   The mantra for personal and business challenges from Tim Hurson, Author of Reckon Better.  Consider these statistics on how we lose our ability to reckon creatively as we age: Between the ages of 4 to 5 years ancient, our creative abilities are soaring at 98%, by the age of 10 we’re down to using 30% of our creative capacity, and by the time we’re over 30 it’s a downhill slide and we are only using 2% of our creativity.  Place the spirit of play and imagination back into life to make a longer list of possibilities.  Note: If you have only 2 options to any problem or challenge, you need more options and a longer list!

5.      “If you want to be in like, like yourself”   Jeff Gee, Author of Super Service.  Jeff Gee addressed a front-line service group and talked about the importance of the first 15 minute power-up of the day to a Positive Attitude.  So skip CNN first thing in the morning.  Spend your first 15 minutes of the day reading something inspirational or even singing in the shower.  Jeff notes, “People who sing in the shower tend to be more pleased”.

6.       Go Wild! Because 92% of the time you’re operating in your Comfort Zone.  The fascinating news is: right miracles and transformation do not typically happen in that Comfort Zone.  So Pain and Discomfort is Excellent?  Sometimes!  Consider viewing a current business or personal challenge as an opportunity for making a new reality and new possibilities in your business and life.  “The 21st century is a century of hope and opportunity for all people who are open to continuous transformation” – Kobus Neethling, Author of Am I clever or am I stupid.

7.       Get a Lift!  The Power of Energy and Positive People!   I experienced the magic of energy by Art of Innovation Author Dimis Michaelides.  The audience watched while Dimis demonstrated the magical levitation of an audience member through the power of collective energy.  Negative energy spreads quicker than positive, which is why Negativity in the Workplace is such a Cancer!  Keep in mind that research shows that your psychology becomes the average of the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with.  So, Get Smart!  Get a Lift!  Spend time with positive, smart and caring people!

8.      For those who say “Yes” Far Too often, “Consider a Time Out and a Year of No”   Wise words from Procter and Gamble Executive, Teri List at a recent gathering of female business executives.  Teri, who says her kids are her “role models” talked about the importance of focus on one’s values and priorities.  She had this helpful tip: When questioned to do something outside of what you can, want or want to do if you had the time, consider saying, “I want to help, but due to other commitments, I’ve made this my year of No”.  Simple, Direct.  How can you argue?

 9.      “If You Reckon It, Ink It.  If you Feel it Face It”   Demonstrated by the Author of Square One at 51, Hedria Lunken.  Hedria’s published journal of the sudden loss of her husband is testimony to the importance and power of journaling every day for clarity and reflection.  Journaling doesn’t have to be “A Gone with the Wind Novel” but consider jotting down a few lines about what you’ve learned and feel about yourself, your challenges and the world each day.  I reckon it’s why blogging is so well loved.  PS: Did you know that we have a tendency to write more when we’re in like (that clarifies those like letters) or in pain?  Consider writing in your non-extreme moods and emotions.

10.   “Laugh Every Day”   From R. Bruce Baum and Eileen Doyle, Certified Laughter Leaders, Try Laughter Yoga, (You don’t have to be amusing) or simply incorporate laughter into your daily routine with videos or humorous/light reading.  Laughter works off calories, gets your brain hopping and can teach you not to take yourself or your problems quite so seriously.

The Female Hormone Problem

With increasing population pressure and modern independent lifestyles, procreation has become an option that is declined, or at least significantly restricted. But with these decisions women remove themselves from a natural biological role. Additionally, opting for synthetic milk formulas and treating the breast as an ornament, rather than a feeding organ, also disengages women from a natural biological function.

When these choices are coupled with the use of contraceptive hormones, hormone replacement therapy, an increasing load of estrogenic pollutants in the environment and food, and a diet that has veered significantly from its natural design, the formula for hormonal pandemonium, metabolic dysfunction and disease is in place. The results are manifest today in early menses in children (beginning as early as eight and nine years of age), infertility, abnormal and erratic menstrual cycles, cervical dysplasia, fibroids, endometrial cancer, breast cancer, premenstrual syndrome, dramatic mood swings, depression, osteoporosis, and the hot flashes, psychological problems, decreased libido, thinning of the vaginal wall and other symptoms of abnormal menopause.

If women would have as many children as they are capable of, nurse them for years as they are designed to, eat natural foods and live in a more pristine environment, these modern health problems would disappear. If money flowed out of our tap we wouldn’t have economic problems either, right? Nevertheless, although the ideal biological lifestyle may not be possible for any of us today, we can take a lesson and try to go our lives as close to the ideal as possible.

At present, the desire to eliminate or limit pregnancies is a personal choice. But it may one day not even be an option. We either curtail population growth or we will outstrip resources and be buried in our own refuse. Population is the engine that ultimately drives all environmental woes. We live on a finite planet with finite resources, but have an infinite ability to breed. We either live within the limits of Earth’s sustainable resources or we will ruin ourselves.

So we have a dilemma. As I will clarify, women need to fulfill their reproductive role to achieve metabolic balance and health, but at the same time they do not want to be restricted by the burdens of large families, nor are large families socially or environmentally responsible.

In an attempt to solve this dilemma, women have turned to the quick fix of synthetic hormones. There are hormones to control conception, modulate abnormal menstrual cycles, for sex drive and to fix menopause. But there is no free lunch. Since the 1940’s, when estrogen therapy became well loved, hundreds of thousands of women have succumbed to estrogen-sensitive cancer. For example, a woman is 13 times more likely to get endometrial cancer and there is a 30% increased risk of breast cancer by taking estrogen. The two top preventable breast cancer risks are now known to be oral birth control pills and estrogen replacement therapy.

Some women justify the use of estrogen for the putative benefits of decreased risk of osteoporosis and cardiovascular disease. But they have succumbed to marketing, not excellent sense. Proper exercise, diet and lifestyle choices can have the same beneficial effect without the potential consequence of cancer. But hey, why change lifestyle when all you need to do is take a pill?

Here’s what nature intended and why living in accordance with it is protective against the modern plague of female cancers. The average mom today chooses to give birth to about two infants. On the other hand, women in the primitive natural setting who may not even know what causes pregnancy or how to prevent it even if they wanted to, would have started menstruating and ovulating at age 12 and would have delivered 9 babies and breast-fed them all. When they did breastfeed, they did so for up to five or more years. Pregnancy stops the reproductive hormone cycles (that generate estrogen) since there is room in the uterus for only one pregnancy. Nursing also stops the cycle because the body “knows” that lactation and caring for an infant is about all one body can endure.

This means that the modern woman who has only two children would reproductively cycle and ovulate 438 times during her lifetime. On the other hand, the combination of more numerous pregnancies along with extended breast-feeding would have decreased the number of ovulations and cycles that a primitive mother would have had to about 9.

This means that women today cycle through their menstrual periods an abnormal number of times, causing repeated surges of estrogen–about 50 times more than nature intended. Small wonder that estrogen sensitive cancers abound in our modern world. The cancer-estrogen link is also proven by the fact that such cancers in humans and animals are decreased if the estrogen generating ovaries are surgically removed. (I am just making a point, not advocating the procedure since the absence of estrogen makes problems as well.)

The resting periods of lower estrogen that women experienced in the pre-modern setting during pregnancy and lactation served as a protective effect against cancer. (Women today can even dramatically decrease their risk of breast cancer by nursing their young for even as small as two years.) Additionally, the fresh foods of the natural diet contain compounds known as phytoestrogens. These plant estrogenic compounds are able to attach to estrogen receptor sites in the body and prevent the stronger ovarian estrogens from attaching to tissues. But, the phytoestrogens only exert a mild estrogenic effect and even inhibit oncogene (tumor genes) expression and thus are not cancer promoting. This is the logic behind plant-based nutritional supplements (nutraceuticals) to help women with estrogenic problems and cancer prevention.

Hormones are master regulators of body function. They cannot be manipulated either by lifestyle choices or medications without serious consequences. Women do well to reckon of their genetic heritage and try to live life as close to that as possible if health is the goal.

For further reading, or for more information about, Dr Wysong and the Wysong Corporation please visit www.wysong.net or write to wysong@wysong.net. For resources on healthier foods for people including snacks, and breakfast cereals please visit www.cerealwysong.com.

Female Sexual Dysfunction Treatment

Patients want to talk about sexual dysfunction problem with physicians, but often fail to do so thinking its a embarrassing topic, or there is no treatment available. Female sexual dysfunction (FSD) is a serious problem in the United Kingdom, and unfortunately often goes untreated. Female sexual dysfunction problem includes pain during sex, decreased sexual desire, arousal problem.

Causes

Causes of female sexual dysfunction includes physiologic and psychological problems, anything from partnership problem and depression, diabetes, side effect of some medicine, heart disease, excessive alcohol, hormonal disorders, fall of testosterone level in body. Testosterone is produced in ovaries, so levels can drop if ovaries are removed or not functioning properly. Medication used to treat high blood pressure, cancer may also cause female sexual dysfunction.

How to treat Female Sexual Dysfunction?

Women who suffer from vaginal dryness are recommended to use lubricants during intercourse. Vaginal cream and sexual lubrications are available for dryness problem. Some doctors recommend that women use Kegel exercises, which help to develop the muscles around the outer part of the vagina that are involved in pleasurable sensations. Testosterone replacement patch Intrinsa patch (Testosterone patch) is the most effective treatment for female sexual dysfunction treatment.

The use of intrinsa patches has demonstrated to be of significant benefit to women suffering from female sexual dysfunction. The patches release small amount of testosterone to increase woman’s sexual desire. It constantly releases small amount of testosterone into the bloodstream through skin.

Who can use Intrinsa Patches?

Do not use Intrinsa patches (Testosterone Patches) if

You are allergic to testosterone or any other content of intrinsa patches
You are suffering from heart diseases
You are having cancer
You are having diabetes
Breast-feeding
You are likely to become pregnant as it may cause harm to the unborn baby

Intrinsa patches are not meant for use in children.

How to use Intrinsa Patches

The intrinsa patch is applied on dry, clean skin on the lower abdomen. The same place should not be used again for atleast next 7 days. A new patch should be applied every 3 to 4 days and replaced with a new one in a different place.

Intrinsa patches are available in packs 2, 4, 8 and 24 patches.

Intrinsa patches need some time to show effects. The effect will be seen in a month or more after you start using intrinsa patches. If after 4 to 6 months there is no effect, you should consult your doctor for treatment review.

Side effects of Intrinsa patches

Like all other medicines, Intrinsa patches can cause side effects although not everyone gets them.

Following are the common side effects:

Hair loss
Increase in amount of hair on the chin or upper lips
Voice deepening or hoarseness
Increased acne
Skin reaction at the site of application such as redness, rashes, irritation and itching

If any of the side effects mentioned above gets serious consult your doctor immediately.

Psychological counseling can also play an vital part in treating women with sexual problems.

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