Dating Tips

Dating Tips and Advice from around the Web:

Courting women through the flaming hoop that is online dating is not simple. There are hurdles, expectations, and unwritten rules you need to know and follow.

The ladies at TheFrisky.com have come up with a list of the top 10 online dating mistakes men make. Here are a few tips from women who should know:

1. TMI. We don’t want to know about your ex-wife, your bankruptcy, or your feelings of masculine inadequacy. If you’re neurotic about it, leave it out.

2. Mr. Keen. If you send us an overly long email that sounds overly solicitous, we won’t reckon you’re interested. We’ll reckon you’re desperate.

3. Bang-Bang. Make it clear you’re out for a one-night-stand? With few exceptions, we’re pleased to show you the door.

4. The Dealbreaker. There’s a difference between knowing what you want and having a list of criteria no woman could meet. Keep it real.

5. Body Obsessed. If you say you won’t date “fatties,” even skinny chicks won’t date you. You’re not a hater. You’re just a … .

6. Stalker Boy. Keep emails, calls, and date requests to a minimum. We’ll let you know what we want from you.

Ever finished a first date and then stressed for days about how it all went? Did you make the right impression? Did you talk too much?Why did you say that?… Here’s how to deal with post date anxiety.

We’re all familiar with the jitters that lead up to a first date. We worry about what to wear, what we’ll say, what he’ll reckon of us. If one drink will give our confidence a nudge, we worry that more may push us right off our stool. This is all normal and harmless. The same can’t always be said, though, of the post-date jitters.
Stressed to Impress

While it is normal to relive a date, remembering highlights and perhaps kicking yourself for something you said or did, obsessing about every small detail and berating yourself for how you behaved can be self-destructive.

It’s unhealthy to over analyze a first date to the point where you become nervous. Running through the evening over and over in your mind and focusing on what you might have done incorrect or could have done differently is a useless exercise. Your sense of what makes a excellent impression often becomes distorted.

The more you fret about a comment you made, for instance, the more idiotic you imagine it sounding. In some sense, you stop trusting yourself. And that just makes you more nervous.

If the first date leads to a second, it’s unlikely to go well if you’ve been hammering your own confidence. If you present yourself as wanting reassurance this early, it will scare your date away. And no man wants to be on a date with a woman who constantly puts herself down.
Read Between the Signs

Post-date anxiety says more about you than it does about the date. Constantly mulling over the way you behaved and worrying about the impression you made is usually a sign of low self-esteem. It also suggests you’re attaching too much importance to other people’s opinions of you. And that indicates a woman who doesn’t know her own worth. Dud dates aggravate the problem because women are quick to assume it’s their fault. Women tend to blame themselves rather than accept that it wasn’t meant to be.
Stop It

Don’t allow yourself to get caught in the trap of convincing yourself you’re a terrible date – and therefore becoming one. If you get home and start panicking, pick up a excellent book or place on some upbeat music to distract yourself. And if you need to go over the date, talk it through with a girlfriend who can temper your negativity.

It’s also vital to change your understanding of a first date. It’s not meant to reveal whether he likes you – it’s meant to reveal whether you two like each other. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t mean you failed or were rejected – it just means it wasn’t meant to be.

It’s hard to get things quite right on and after a first date, because we no longer have set rules to starting a relationship. Too much enthusiasm could scare him away – but so could being distant and playing hard to get, which give the impression you’re not interested.

Etiquette guidelines for first dates

1. Question him about himself and show genuine interest in his answers.

2. Don’t hog the whole evening talking about yourself.

3. Do offer to share the bill.. but don’t offer to pay the entire bill.

4. Act naturally.

5. Don’t pretend to be someone else or lie about yourself.

6. Maintain eye contact when talking to him; don’t let your stare roam around the room while he’s talking to you.

7. Phone or SMS him within three days to thank him for a fantastic evening.

8. Don’t be worried to make the first contact after the date, and don’t wait too long to do it. If he blows you off at least you’ll have closure and know where you stand.

Women can make many mistakes when looking for like on the internet. There are so many men and women to choose from on the internet. Most women will reckon they have found the perfect mate in just a few emails. But just
like real life dating it takes time to get to know a person.

Common mistakes women make with online dating:

1.Women give out too much personal information online. Giving a person your name and phone number is just like giving them your address.

2.Believing every piece of information a guy gives you online is a huge mistake. He can make up just about anything. He can be anyone you want him to be, and he knows that.

3.If you reckon the guy you met online is only interested in you, you are incorrect. The internet is international. If you met this guy online, you have to know there are many other women he has met the same way.

4.Women fall in like too easily over the internet. This happens before they even meet the guy. Then they share this with the guy over the internet. This will just make the woman appear unstable.

5.Most women post provocative pictures of themselves online. If you do this a man will already have misconceived notions about what type of person you are.

6.A very huge mistake is for a woman to boast about her accomplishments online. Most men will care less about your accomplishments.

7.Don’t place pictures of your house and kids on your profile. You never know who you are corresponding with over the internet; it could be the guy up the street.

8.Do not come across as a woman scorn. That is the largest turn off to most men, a negative woman. Men do not want to hear about your last relationships, and how your ex did you incorrect.

9.Do not fabricate about your appearance. Be truthful about the way you look and post up to date photos of yourself. Do not post pictures from ten years ago, pretending you still look the same.

10.Make sure you question enough questions to get to know him.

Many women just want to find the perfect companion. But in the real world is there really such a thing? You will not find the perfect person, but maybe the perfect one for you.

Dating can be confusing for men. Should you focus on showing you’re a nice guy or aim to come across as and macho and strong?

Dating guides might encourage you to impress her with grand romantic gestures and unbounded admiration, but we know what women really want when dating, and it might surprise you! Here are the top four surprising traits which impress women when dating.

1. No grand gestures (just the smaller ones will do)

When we reckon of romance it can often conjure up images of grand gestures which will sweep a woman off her feet. While a giant bouquet of roses or an unexpected weekend in Paris are not to be sniffed at, you cannot buy a woman’s affection – it is the smaller gestures which will lead to approval.

Holding a door open for the person you are dating (in the right circumstances) shows excellent manners without being over the top. Try to emphasise your respect without making too much of a fuss – she will notice the small things and you will be able to keep up this behaviour over time (while too many mini-breaks could leave you bankrupt!)

2. An element of challenge

A lot of very excellent men fall down unnecessarily here with dating. Women like to be looked after to some extent, but don’t really need to have their every whim catered to by a man who quite obviously adores them from day one.

While treating a woman well is one thing, being an absolute pushover is never all that attractive, and this is the reason many ‘nice guys’ aren’t the ones who are the luckiest when it comes to dating. There is an element of ‘the thrill of the chase’ for both sexes, so bear this in mind and try not to place the woman you are dating on a pedestal straight away – let her impress you, too!

3. A stubborn streak

The woman you are dating might give the impression she wants you to change, but let her wrap you around her small finger and you could learn, changes made, that she’s lost interest after all. This is because most women, deep down, are a lot more pleased knowing their partner is a strong man who can speak up for himself.

If she does question you to change, be very wary of doing it. That is, unless it’s a change you wanted to make anyway (like stopping smoking! That’s always a excellent thought). Try to stay right to yourself, while looking after her needs where you can, and she’ll respect you more for it.

4. Being unavailable

This does not equate to not calling back – that’s just rude! But a certain amount of unavailability can make for a longer lasting relationship. She might reckon she wants you to be around all the time but a small time apart can do wonders to keep the spark going between you.

If you aim to keep up your usual activities, such as meeting your friends and family or spending time on your leisure activities, this should give enough down-time to your relationship to keep it burning hot when you’re together.