No longer “the other woman”, but NOT “the new girlfriend” either. What to do???
Question by oldsoul_newera: No longer “the other woman”, but NOT “the new girlfriend” either. What to do???
To make a long tale small, a bit of background…
I was, for lack of a better term, “the other woman” for 9 months. His 3 year relationship with his girlfriend was very unstable when i came long. I didn’t mind my status, wasn’t looking for anything serious. Acutally, wasn’t looking for anything at all. We were friends/neighbors who just happened to have incredible, unbelievable sex! Anyway, after 9 months of “twice a week”, SHE found out & they broke up.
My dilema..
We continued, and our feelings grew deeper. But,knowing he’d just come out of a 3 yr relationship, I wasn’t about to question him for anything serious. And although I was definately falling in like, I played it cool. I told him he was free to see other women because when/if we “commited” to each other, I wanted him to “want it” too. Well, another 9 months have passed & I’m still NOT his “girlfriend”. He has told me he likes me twice. For me, he’s “THE ONE”.
My question…
Should I tell him times up. Commit or quit?
Best answer:
Answer by blue:eyes RETURNS!!
TELL HIM!!!
Then see how he reacts.
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yeah go for it
how could you ever trust him? if he was cheating WITH you… why wouldnt he cheat ON you???
No dont tell him times up just question….what’s up and then make your choice based on his answer. Best to be honest.
You used him for sex and he used you for sex.
He stuck with his emotions but you broke down and fell for it.
Talk to him and tell him you like him but don’t blame him if he does not want a commitment. In that case, you might have to say, “Time’s up!”
yes and it is about time that he be serious with you.
Who do you reckon you are dealing with? A guy who will cheat on his girlfriend! What makes you reckon he will do any different with you? I don’t know why you would want him as a boyfriend. He is doing what he should have done in the first place. Play the field. There are women out there willing to do so as well. So if you did force a “committment” out of him, he wouldn’t honor it anyway. Beware. And act how you want to be treated in the future.
You set yourself up for failure by being a homewrecker, and now he doesn’t want you either. It makes complete sense to me. Men want ladies, not somone who is willing to be the other woman. Even if you did become his girlfriend, i doubt he’d marry you. I don’t want to call you names, but lets just say loose women, never prosper.
i guess i’m just trying to figure out why you feel he’ll be faithful now, when he’s already shown you that fidelity isn’t his strong suit? even if you are able to get him to agree to a commitment, he’s not likely to adhere to it. why should he commit? right from the very beginning, you’ve shown him it’s okay to discount you and your feelings.
Your judgment is really screwed up if you reckon a guy who cheated on his girlfriend for you will come running into your arms to be with you. He cheated on her, he’ll cheat on you. Plain and simple. The guy is a dog. Kick him to the curb, find your self-respect again, and stay away from other women’s men for once.